What is confidence

Confidence has nothing whatsoever to do with continuously seeking the validation and approval of others. If you confuse confidence with that useless social activity. I can more or less guarantee you 110%. You will go nowhere in life! – it’s not the question of whether they will like me or have I managed to come across as a jolly good fellow. Rather real confidence is – even if THEY don’t like me…..I will be OK! I will still be able to accomplish my mission!

That’s real confidence….please keep it very clear. As I seem to get a lot of unnecessary questions concerning this subject and I cannot write to everyone individually to explain.

Just be yourself and don’t try to pretend to be someone who you are not – if you don’t like something….just say you don’t like it. No one is going to mark you down on account of your candor…if they do. It’s not your fault…and don’t spend time trying to figure out why they don’t like you….as only stupid people indulge in that sort of time consuming activity…just manage YOURSELF and leave others to others.

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‘Hey! Don’t get me wrong man! I am all for the idea of making other people feel comfortable with themselves, but if I have to deliberately make a point to come across as stupid or even go thru the trouble of pretending that I don’t know this or that just to make others feel secure and at ease – then I happen to believe that is awfully stupid and since it will always consume a lot of effort on my part to keep on watering down and hiding who I actually am.

Usually I just walk away from that sort of social interaction. I don’t want to be part of it, that’s just the way I am.

I much prefer to me just myself – I find that when I do just that alone…..life becomes effortless any other way of living is just a hassle.’